Accepting Your Body

Learning to love yourself

Shirley J. Davis


Photo by Darius Bashar on Unsplash

Whom do you see looking back at you when you look in the mirror? Is your body as you would like it to be, or do you always find fault with it? If not, you are in good company, as most people feel somewhat ashamed of their appearance.

This article discusses body shaming, ACEs, and how the two interact with complex trauma.

Body Shaming

Many people feel deep-seated shame over how they look. We spend billions each year on spa treatments and beauty products. A driving force in how we respond to our bodies is the existence of body shaming.

Body shaming is saying something negative about your or someone else’s body. The comment may be about your size, hair, eating habits, clothing, or age. It only takes one of the negative statements said to a person who has experienced complex trauma to ruin their day or leave an indelible scar.

Indeed, body shaming causes several negative consequences to your mental health. Below are only a few adverse effects that occur because of body shaming.

· Significantly elevated risk of depression

· Eating disorders forming

· Worsens the outcome for people who are trying to lose weight

· Causes immense dissatisfaction in your body

· Low self-esteem

· Anxiety

· Body dysmorphic disorder

· Psychological distress

· Risk of self-harm or suicide

To reverse body shaming, you must learn to speak positively about your body. Try noticing qualities you like, such as the color of your eyes or the shape of your lips. Practicing speaking positively about your body will reconnect you to your body and deepen your compassion, care, and connection to yourself.

ACEs and Obesity

In the 1990s, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and Kaiser Permanente conducted research using 17,000 participants who were asked about childhood maltreatment. They assumed that there was a direct link between obesity in adulthood and childhood trauma.



Shirley J. Davis

I am an author/speaker/grant writer in the U.S. My passion is authoring information about mental health disorders, especially dissociative identity disorder..