Applying Emotional Intelligence to Our Lives

Doing so can change your life

Shirley J. Davis


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People living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder are notorious for their emotional dysregulation. Emotional intelligence is critically important for controlling one’s emotions and surfing the problems one may encounter in the world. There are many theories about establishing emotional intelligence and how to apply it to your life.

In this article, we shall discuss theories about emotional intelligence (also known as an emotional quotient) and ways you can improve yours.

A Recap: What is Emotional Intelligence?

In a paper written by Davis & Nichols in 2016, emotional intelligence is defined as:

“competency in perceiving, understanding, and regulating our own emotions and the emotions of others (Zeidner et al., 2009).”

I am not sure I agree with the second part of that definition because we cannot control others.

However, breaking that definition down, emotional intelligence (EI) describes the ability to use, understand, and manage emotions in positive and effective ways to relieve stress, defuse conflict, and overcome challenges.

EI is vital if you are to succeed in your career and life as it helps you deal with the stress and emotions you will face when working toward your goals.

Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships, succeed in their endeavors, achieve personal and professional goals and also help to connect with their feelings, make informed decisions, and turn intention into action.

Emotional intelligence is an attitude that allows the effective management of feelings, relationships, and experiences. EI is a set of values driven by emotional and social relationship skills that can guide one in how they perceive and understand themselves and cope with changes and challenges meaningfully.

The Two Perspectives of Emotional Intelligence

There are several perspectives in the scientific literature about emotional intelligence. Below, we shall outline two of those perspectives.

The first perspective regards emotional relevance regarding self-perceptions, such as empathy…



Shirley J. Davis

I am an author/speaker/grant writer in the U.S. My passion is authoring information about mental health disorders, especially dissociative identity disorder..