Applying Emotional Intelligence to Our Lives

Doing so can change your life

Shirley J. Davis
5 min readSep 13, 2022


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People living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder are notorious for their emotional dysregulation. Emotional intelligence is critically important for controlling one’s emotions and surfing the problems one may encounter in the world. There are many theories about establishing emotional intelligence and how to apply it to your life.

In this article, we shall discuss theories about emotional intelligence (also known as an emotional quotient) and ways you can improve yours.

A Recap: What is Emotional Intelligence?

In a paper written by Davis & Nichols in 2016, emotional intelligence is defined as:

“competency in perceiving, understanding, and regulating our own emotions and the emotions of others (Zeidner et al., 2009).”

I am not sure I agree with the second part of that definition because we cannot control others.

However, breaking that definition down, emotional intelligence (EI) describes the ability to use, understand, and manage emotions in positive and effective ways to relieve stress, defuse conflict, and overcome challenges.

EI is vital if you are to succeed in your career and life as it helps you deal with the stress and…



Shirley J. Davis

I am an author/speaker/grant writer in the U.S. My passion is authoring information about mental health disorders, especially dissociative identity disorder..