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Dealing with Rejection as a Multiple
It’s not about you
Every human on Earth knows the pain of rejection. Perhaps that date didn’t suit you or your boss. When one has dissociative identity disorder, rejection isn’t something we live through and recover quickly from.
What can we, as people living with dissociative identity disorder, do to increase our ability to handle rejection from the past and the present?
What is Rejection?
Rejection is a feeling of being dismissed or excluded. Rejection can be active, like teasing, or passive, like being ignored. Because the caregiver has rejected their children, it is easier for them to see their children as beings who are not human, making them the ideal for abuse.
Rejection causes a multitude of hurt feelings, loneliness, shame, embarrassment, and extreme sadness or anger.
Rejection creates an emotional wound similar to the response you feel if you hurt your body. Psychologists believe that the pain of rejection is left over from our collective evolutionary past, as rejection then would have been deadly.
If rejection occurs between a parent or caregiver and a child, the child will be forced to either fend for themselves or seek acceptance somewhere else, such as a gang.
