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Identifying as a Person Rather Than a Victim
All of us have been there, we realize someone has hurt us and we feel victimized. But what happens when being a victim becomes more important than who we are a person? Is living life in victim mode healthy for us? Or is it a horrid trap?
That’s what I’m going to discuss here today, how living as a victim instead of identifying as a person is a trap and perhaps the worst kind of imprisonment.
Becoming a Victim
I realize that those of us diagnosed with a traumatic childhood have many reasons to grieve. Not only was our childhood chaotic and harmful, but now we need to live with the effects of that abuse for the rest of our lives. However, sometimes people get stuck in victim mode, thinking themselves forever the victim and not wishing to see themselves as whole human beings.
It is so tempting to sit back and lick our wounds for the rest of our lives expecting others to kowtow at our feet and give us whatever we want. I know because I’ve been there.
