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Overcoming Codependency
To Live a Happier Life
In this series of articles, we have examined codependency and various types of trauma. We’ve learned that living in a home where there is familial violence and neglect can spark in a child the need to be needed and thus set them up for becoming codependent in later life.
This article will focus on how to overcome codependency to live a healthier, happier life.
A Reminder of What Codependency Is
To talk about the cure for codependence, we must first remind ourselves of what makes up codependency.
Melody Beattie is the author of Codependent No More, a book that explores codependency and how it affects the lives of those who exhibit it. The book advises explanations, and compassion for people who live with the overwhelming condition of codependency.
Beattie says the best definition could be as follows. “Codependency is a stress-induced pattern of behavior that dictates how a person treats another and how she allows that other person to influence her. The codependent obsesses over the other person and seeks to control them.”
Darlene Lancer goes further in her definition of codependency:
“Codependency is more than a relationship problem. Wounds of codependency affect our…
