The Journey to Contentment with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Contentment must be learned

Shirley J. Davis


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In this world we inhabit, there are stresses and pain that can cloud our ability to be content. Instead, we find ourselves caught in a repeating pattern of hope and disillusionment.

This article will focus on contentment, what it is, and how to achieve it.

What is Contentment?

Unfortunately, in our society, people have lost the ability to be content. Contentment is a deep sense of accepting yourself and your environment at any given moment. It is a fact that we humans don’t notice the happiness we have now. Instead, we are focused on the future and what material wealth we might garner.

True contentment doesn’t come from outer things or circumstances; it comes from within oneself and is independent of external circumstances. We often spend our time chasing happiness thinking, “If I just had that job,” or “If I owned that thing,” etc.

Chasing happiness and contentment nearly always leads to dissatisfaction, disconnection from others, and addiction because we’re chasing that high. Actively cultivating contentment leads to gratitude, calmness, and a better peace of mind.

What is Learned Contentment?

Contentment isn’t something you are born with; it is a learned trait that usually is learned from caring caregivers. Learning contentment is a skill that involves accepting who and where you are without dwelling on how you wish you would be.

Obviously, in childhood, you couldn’t and shouldn’t have been content in the home where you experienced horrific child abuse. However, as an adult who can defend yourself, you can learn to accept things and allow yourself to live.

When in therapy for dissociative identity disorder, you face all that happened to you so long ago that it is tempting to think you could never accept what happened. But acceptance is the final stage of healing from DID and must take place so you can move on.

Notice, I didn’t say you had to learn to love what happened to you or agree with the ones who hurt you. I said that now that you are grown, it is time to work through the past and finally, after much hard work…



Shirley J. Davis

I am an author/speaker/grant writer in the U.S. My passion is authoring information about mental health disorders, especially dissociative identity disorder..