The Twin Destroyers of Healing: Shame and Self-Hatred
Learning to Live
Healing from a childhood so full of trauma that it causes dissociative identity disorder (DID) and many other mental health disorders is incredibly difficult and the road is hard and long. The two greatest destroyers of the healing process that poison our minds and keep us from progressing as we should are shame and self-hatred.
In this article, we shall discover together how shame and self-hatred hold us back and some methods to escape their grasp as we walk down the road less taken.
The Destroyer of Healing Called Shame
Shame is a natural emotion that helps keep human beings in line. If you do something wrong, you feel ashamed and hopefully will not do that thing again. This behavior helps us not to harm ourselves or others.
However, shame that goes beyond the healthy realm is usually begun by caregivers who kept the children under their care in a constant state of shame to control them. John Bradshaw gave this type of humiliation a title, toxic shame.
Toxic shame describes false, pathological shame that induced in children by all forms of child abuse where the child grows up with totally shame-based beliefs about themselves that they carry into adulthood.
